The Most Important Journey of Our Lives
I'm Ken Page, LCSW, a psychotherapist whose work focuses on the search for intimacy. I'm delighted to begin this blog for single people and those who support them in their growth. It's a subject very...
View ArticleThe Single Greatest Threat to New Relationships -- and What to Do About It
The most common way we sabotage new love possibilities is through what I call the Wave of Distancing (or simply, the Wave). The Wave occurs when we unconsciously push a caring and available person away...
View ArticleLearning Through Pleasure—How A Dating Buddy Can Transform Your Search For Love
What offers wisdom and pleasure, is free, and can change your entire romantic future? A dating buddy. A dating buddy is a friend and co-coach in one of the most defining tasks of your life; your search...
View ArticleA Message of Hope For Anyone Seeking A Relationship
If you’re looking for love, there’s great reason to be hopeful. As a psychotherapist who specializes in the search for intimacy, I’ve seen that healthy love is closer than we think—if we just change...
View ArticleAttractions of Inspiration and Attractions of Deprivation
If I could only share one insight with my single readers, it would be this: Learn to distinguish between your "attractions of deprivation" and your "attractions of inspiration." Then, only follow your...
View ArticleRecognizing Your Attractions of Deprivation
Why do our most intense romantic passions so often end in disaster? There is an insight which can help us unravel this mystery: Our most painful attractions actually arise from our deepest intimacy...
View ArticleWhat's Your Crucial Step Toward Love?
We're taught that the search for love is a numbers game, with odds stacked in favor of the most attractive. Well, we've been taught wrong! When we approach dating as an intimacy journey rather than a...
View ArticleHow To Love Yourself First
Everyone's heard this platitude: We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. This may sound wise, but it misses a great truth; if we want to experience true intimacy, we need to be taught...
View ArticleThe Single Person's Thought Leader Series: Gay Hendricks, Ph.D.
I'm delighted to introduce the Single Person's Thought Leader Series, in which I will interview some of the most exciting thinkers in psychology, science, spirituality and other fields, each with...
View ArticleThe Brave Shortcut To Love
No matter what you've been told, no matter what you've feared to be true, the search for love is essentially neither a race against time nor a hunt for a needle in the haystack. It's a journey toward...
View ArticleHow Your Greatest Insecurities Reveal Your Deepest Gifts
In my decades of practice as a psychotherapist, this is the insight that has inspired me most: Our deepest wounds surround our greatest gifts. I've found that the very qualities we're most ashamed of,...
View ArticleHow Even A Flawed Spiritual Practice Can Lead You to Love
This short practice is a life-enhancing tool for finding love. It liberates waves of buried passion, and channels that passion to change the course of our intimacy lives. There’s no rigid meditation...
View ArticleThe Secret Story Behind Your Romantic Attractions
Almost all of us create a personal "myth of lost love" to explain why love has hurt us in the past. Unexamined, this powerful myth leads to painful relationships with people who aren't good for us....
View ArticleTwo Tools For Changing Your Life That Don't Require Willpower
If you're looking for more happiness and greater intimacy in the year ahead, here are two of the most valuable tools I know. Don't be deceived by the comfort and pleasure they bring; these are direct...
View ArticleAn Interview With Marianne Williamson: The Essential Steps To Finding Love
I’m honored to have Marianne Williamson share her wise insights about the path to romantic love. Marianne is one of America’s most beloved spiritual teachers, and the New York Times bestselling author...
View ArticleDeeper Dating: The Three Steps That Lead to Love
A message for all single people: The way we search for love usually determines the kind of love we find. Our culture assails us with romanticized images of love, yet encourages us to play dehumanizing...
View ArticleFive Keys To Developing Your Deepest Gifts
Core Gifts are the most tender places inside us. They lie at the very heart of our creativity and our love. If we open to them, they guide us inexorably to what matters most to us. To ignore them is to...
View ArticleHow to Develop Sexual and Romantic Attraction to People Who Are Good for You
Sexual attraction can't be forced. Most of us have learned that the hard way. What we haven't been taught is that sexual attractions can be educated. Even if you're relentlessly attracted to bad-boys,...
View ArticleThree Myths That Keep Us From Finding Love
Beneath the glitz of much dating advice lies a cynical reverence for the power of packaging and promotion: “Women, be a vixen. Men, learn to seduce. Everyone keep your partner guessing. Lose weight. Be...
View ArticleWhy We Fear our Deepest Gifts
Self-improvement is often no more than self-criticism in an alluring outfit. Our culture focuses obsessively on the endless allure of improvement, but there’s a much more thrilling area of inquiry:...
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